I Hate To Be The Bearer of BAD News but...

Crying lady cartoonWe are here for just a brief moment in time.

And, some of us get our death sentence earlier than others.

A young woman in her mid forties came for a health consultation.

She had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and was told she had three months, max, to live.

We sat together and I went over specific diet and lifestyle improvements for her condition. It was thirteen pages of content containing various foods to eat and ways to adjust her life so it was more conducive to healing.

With each page I turned, I noticed she was growing more and more agitated. She folded her arms across her chest and crossed her legs. A clear sign she was not receptive to the information.

When I finished with my recommendations she didn’t say anything.

She just sat there looking down at the paperwork.

Then she looked up at me, raised her eyebrows and matter-of-factly stated, “You can’t possibly believe that I’m going to do any of this stuff for myself, do you?”

“No.” I said, “Considering your emotional condition, I don’t think you’re going to do any self-care at all. But, you came for a consultation so I had to offer it as a possibility for your healing.”

She said, “What else can you offer me.”

I said, “Well, if I were you, I would quit my high-stress job, and I would take ALL of my money out of the bank. Then I would go and do the things I have always wanted to do, but haven’t actually done yet (travel, take an extended vacation, cruise around the world). I would make it the best three months of my life.”

She sat quietly and stared blankly at me.

She said, “That’s good enough. Thank you.”

I never heard from her again.

Each day we wake up one step closer to death. A morbid, but sobering thought.

Some folks are here for a longer duration than others, but one thing is clear; we are all out of here at some point.

What would you do differently if you knew the end was drawing near?

  • Would you quit the job you hate and instead do something you love?
  • Would you ditch the abusive relationship and open yourself up for a better partner?
  • Would you love the people in your life more?
  • Would you forgive others to help lighten their emotional burden?
  • Would you forgive yourself, so you can be free?
  • Would you have fun and laugh and play more?
  • Would you take better care of yourself: physically, emotionally and spiritually?

No-one makes it out of this life alive… at least not in the physical body.

Now that you know the “bad” news, what are you going to do differently with your life?


  • Linda Dieteman

    what great food for thought to chew on. thanks!!!!

  • Maria Nardella

    Andrea, the moment this came through, I had to read it. It just resonates with me on so many levels. My mom passed away when she was only 40 and I was 9 months old. It was a gift in an odd way that has always allowed me to live my life as if I were dying. Truth is, no one knows for sure when it’s our turn to exit stage left. So, making the most of each and every day is the best thing we can do. It’s exhausting but peaceful. It inspires us to live healthy, happy, fun filled lives. Good for you to bring up this topic that so many people never think about until they are about to come face to face with it. Wishing you many blessings Andrea. Keep up the fight!

    • @marianardella:disqus I agree with you! We need to make the most of every day. Sending you a big happy, healthy hug!