Thanks to stem-cell biologist and world-renowned author and speaker, Bruce Lipton, I was invited to participate in an Indigenous Sundance Ceremony in Lillooet, Canada.

The four-day experience was brimming with various types of work activities plus healing ceremonies to help support the health of the community and foster their connection to the earth, and to all of the species that inhabit it.

All of the ceremonies were significant and special, but one of the most profound for me, was the Wolf Ceremony.

Chief Tom McCallum, of the Cree Nation, needed the participation of 7 men who had lost their mothers. It didn’t matter what their age, race or religion was, they only needed to be motherless.

The Chief took the men into the woods, and when they returned they were wearing head and body coverings, reminiscent of wolf pelts.

These men were asked to kneel down onto the ground, in a line, very close to each other.

Chief Tom explained to us (the observers), that each of these men was going to thank their mother for their life. It didn’t matter what their relationship was to their mother (good or bad), it was about being grateful and thanking her. Without their mother, they simply wouldn’t be here.

It was about respect, honor and reverence for the female energy that carried them into this world.

As the ceremony began, Chief Tom kneeled down directly in front of the first man, face to face. He then leaned over and nuzzled his face against the side of that man’s face and neck. Kind of like the way you see wolves in the wild greeting each other and connecting with members of the pack.

The Chief encouraged the first man to share what he needed to say about his mother. As that man began to speak and thank his mother for his life, Chief Tom emitted a low sorrowful howl. It immediately brought the man that was speaking to tears. The more the man cried, the louder the Chief howled in pain.

All of the men kneeling on the ground began crying.

And, all of the people witnessing this ceremony were crying, too.

When the first man finished, the Chief cleared the air and then moved on to the second motherless man. As that man began expressing himself and his raw emotions, the Chief continued his heartfelt howling.

Chief Tom slowly worked his way down the line of motherless men, and helped them express their tears, pain, sorrow, gratefulness and love, for their mother.

It was a powerful ceremony.

Afterwards my 21 year old nephew, Marc, said, “Aunt Fanny, I cried during that ceremony.” He stopped and looked at me, his eyes sparkling with emotion. He continued, “I haven’t cried in years. It felt really good.”

There was both beauty and tragedy in his words. The beauty is that his heart fully opened to feel the pain, suffering, sorrow, loss and love, that another human being was feeling.

The tragedy is that he hadn’t cried in years.

There is a lot cry about.

So many of us are disconnected from the pain, suffering and loss that other people feel.

If more humans were able to open their heart and feel the pain of other people, I believe there could be less horrific events happening around the world today. Senseless tragedies like the massacre of police officers in Texas, slaughter of gay people in Orlando, bombing tourists at the Turkish airport, black people being killed by police and by each other, countless casualties of soldiers and civilians in war, and the list goes on.

There is a lot to cry about.

I invite you to listen to the howl of the wolf and connect to your tribe, your community, your family, your species, and every other species on the planet, and cry.

Open your heart to feel another person’s pain, love, loss and suffering, regardless of race, nationality, sexuality, religion and creed.

If you need a little help getting there, close your eyes and listen to the audio below.


Wishing you peace and love, and a good cry,