It seems like we live in a world filled with conflict. Everyone has a different belief system.
- You believe something.
- I believe something.
- He believes something.
- She believes something.
- They believe something.
With so many different beliefs can we get along with each other and live in peace and harmony?
I’ll give you a personal example of conflicting beliefs.
My husband, like many people, believes that humans evolved from monkeys or apes.
I can see why he believes that.
His favorite fruit is bananas, he looks similar to the human at the right side in the picture above, and he’s got a bit of what’s called a monkey mind.
That means he gets an idea and he jumps on it, but then gets distracted by another idea and then he jumps over to that idea, and then he gets distracted by yet another idea and drops what he’s doing to jump onto that new idea.
Kind of like a monkey jumping from branch to branch to branch in a tree.
So, his belief in this monkey/human evolution business is understandable.
But, for me… they haven’t actually found the mysterious missing link yet; the link that actually connects us to the primates.
It’s literally still missing.
So, I have my reservations and don’t necessarily believe what he believes.
I believe we may be an entirely different species that did NOT evolve from primates at all. Heck, I’m not even sure that modern humans are necessarily from planet earth!
Well the indigenous people yes, but modern humans are very questionable!
How could we be from this earth and intentionally destroy it at the same time?
We pollute the water, the air, and the soil.
We wipe-out large portions of the rain forest and other forests that are the lungs of the earth and imperative for our oxygen and survival. We destroy the life-sustaining elements of our environment.
No other creature on earth intentionally destroys the environment to the extent that we do. A beaver may take down some trees to build it’s home, but it doesn’t lay waste to the entire forest.
I believe something is amiss with modern humans and I question our origins.
People are always talking about the possibility of aliens visiting the planet. Maybe it’s us humans that are the actual aliens we’ve been wondering about.
Just a thought…
My husband and my different belief systems throw a monkey wrench into our relationship.
Or does it??
How do we find peace and harmony with each other while still retaining these two conflicting beliefs?
Step #1 – Understand that your view is not the ONLY view.
It’s just one of many possible views. We all see things from our own perspective. You may see some things that are very different than the way I see things due to our life experiences, our education, our upbringing, and our culture.
Our views become our beliefs.
As long as our belief system isn’t causing intentional harm to another human being, we all have a right to believe whatever it is we choose to believe.
Step #2 – Don’t impose your belief system on me, and I won’t impose my belief system on you.
This includes religion, politics, race, and creed, among others.
We can hold firm in our beliefs but if we force them on other people that is our ego getting in the way. And, if the ego is leading the way, there will always be disharmony and conflict.
“It’s my way or the highway.” We all know those people. They are difficult to be in a relationship with, right?
By the way, our entire human society is set up around belief systems, so it’s no mystery that we are in constant conflict with each other.
Step #3 – Love each other regardless of our differences.
At the core of creating harmony even with different belief systems is love. I love my self and I love my cro-magnon, monkey-minded husband. And, with love comes compassion and understanding.
If I open my heart and listen to him without judging him or his belief system, then there is no true conflict between us. This doesn’t mean that we don’t disagree about our views, we certainly do.
We are not going to agree on everything. But, we can still live in harmony with each other if we have love, rather than our ego, fueling our reactions and responses.
Look around you.
It seems like everyone is in conflict about something involving every facet of human life:
- Big Pharma versus natural medicine
- Is Covid-19 real or is it fake news
- My religion/my god is the almighty
- We are the chosen people
- To vax or not to vax
- Science trumps intuition
- Monkeys vs aliens…
There are so many different belief systems and a lot of egos clashing all around the globe.
Mahatma Gandhi said, “We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness.”
That was a belief Gandhi shared with the world. It’s an ancient belief that is much older than he was, but he said it so well.
I practice a similar belief in my daily life. And, I believe it has contributed to my overall happiness.
Below are some thoughts to ponder as you go about your day.
Can you be in the world without conflict if you use the 3 simple steps outlined above?
And, one final question… do you believe in monkeys or aliens?
There is no wrong answer.
Even though I am right and his knuckles-scraping-the-pavement-monkey-mind is wrong. Uh oh… there’s that darn ego again!!
Leave a comment and share your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.
Andrea Beaman is an internationally renowned Holistic Health Coach, Natural Foods Chef, Speaker, Herbalist and best-selling author. Named one of the top 100 Most Influential Health and Fitness Experts, she is also a recipient of the Natural Gourmet Institute’s Award for Excellence in Health-Supportive Education and a Health Leadership award from The Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Since 1999, Andrea has been teaching people how to harness the body’s own preventative and healing powers using food, herbal remedies and alternative medicine.
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